The Yashar Global Tisha B’Av Program

Sunday, July 18

On the day that we mourn the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash, we explore the unfortunate
phenomenon of contentious divorce facing our community. Together, we’ll discuss solutions to
prepare our children for successful marriages that are destined to be Binyanei Adei Ad. This Tisha
B’av, join thousands of Yidden around the world in safeguarding and enhancing Shalom Bayis.

Watch over 2 hours of education
and inspiration by Gedolim and community askanim

Program 1: Strengthening our Mikdash Me’at

Why are there so many more contentious divorces nowadays?
What can parents do to avoid the pitfalls of divorce for their children?
Let’s explore some answers to these questions and more this Tisha B’Av.

special message Marital Strife Must Be
Avoided at All Costs

Maran Posek Hador HaGaon
HaRav Moshe Sternbuch, Shlita

00:39:36

opening remarks Building a
Mishkan L’Shalom

HaGaon HaRav Hillel David
Chaver Moetzes Gedolei Hatorah

00:01:20

The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah Agreeing (on how) to Disagree:
A Halachic Perspective

HaGaon HaRav Noach Isaac Oelbaum
Mara D’Asra of Khal Nachalas Yitzchok

00:40:55

Innocent Karbanos The Effects of Marital
Friction Upon Our Children

HaGaon HaRav Yaakov Bender
Rosh Yeshivas Darchei Torah

00:23:51

Starting on the Right Foot Preparing Our Children
for a Successful Marriage

Rabbi Yosef Greenfeld
Rov Kehillas Chestnut, Lakewood

00:54:34

Binyan Adei Ad Exploring Today’s
Marital Challenges

Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser
Rov K’hal Bais Yitzchak

00:05:05

In Conclusion Tying it All Together

Charlie Harary
Motivational Speaker

01:11:47


Program 2: Roundtable Discussion
Avoiding the Pitfalls of Divorce

Moderated by:

Rabbi Yitzchok Hisiger
Editor, ArtScroll / Yated Ne’eman

The Cries of the Mizbe’ach

Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel
Executive Vice President,
Agudath Israel of America

A Therapist’s Perspective

Rabbi Dr. Benzion Twerski, PhD
Therapist

Keeping the Peace

Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss
Rav Agudas Yisroel of Staten Island

Destruction in Our Times

Rabbi Zechariah Wallerstein
Founder & Director, Ohr Naava

Tzaischem B’Sholom:
Having an Exit Strategy

Eli Goldbaum
Cofounder, Yashar Initiative

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The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah

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Agree on how to Disagree

Marital conflict is all too common. Trauma in children of divorced homes is common too. Establishing the means to peacefully and swiftly deal with friction before it arises can make all the difference. Enter: The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah.

Designating a Beis Din

The couple designates a specific agreed-upon Beis Din, avoiding considerable discord surrounding the legal arrangements in the future.

The Solution

Developed by rabbanim, legal professionals, and experienced therapists, the Heskem enables couples to enter marriage with an ideal arrangement in place in the event of future conflict. You can view the full Heskem and its protocols here

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Reconciliation First

You’re getting married. You want the home you build to be strong and secure. Forethought might be uncomfortable, but it can change everything. You can safeguard yourself, your marriage, and your future children. Enter: The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah.

Marriage Insurance

The Beis Din will first explore with the couple whether they can mend the Shalom Bayis and find a way to save the marriage.

The Solution

Developed by rabbanim, legal professionals, and experienced therapists, the Heskem enables couples to enter marriage with an ideal arrangement in place in the event of future conflict. You can view the full Heskem and its protocols here

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Is This the Person I Married?

Marriage begins with a set of common goals and value systems. But what happens when those commonalities change, r”l? Many divorces involve custody battles where the lives of Torah and Mitzvos for the children are at stake. Enter: The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah.

Protecting Values

The Beis Din will ensure that Kashrus and Shmiras Shabbos are kept, protecting the children’s spiritual environment, despite the alternating domestic arrangements.

The Solution

Developed by rabbanim, legal professionals, and experienced therapists, the Heskem enables couples to enter marriage with an ideal arrangement in place in the event of future conflict. You can view the full Heskem and its protocols here

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Reducing Unnecessary Pain

The repercussions of contentious divorces are deep and painful. The fallout is not something you want your kids and grandchildren dealing with. The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah is a precaution which can protect them years down the line. Enter: The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah.

Designating a Beis Din

Beis Din will ensure that the process is expedited to avoid lengthy divorce proceedings.

The Solution

Developed by rabbanim, legal professionals, and experienced therapists, the Heskem enables couples to enter marriage with an ideal arrangement in place in the event of future conflict. You can view the full Heskem and its protocols here

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Separate but Equal

Marital conflict is all too common. Trauma in children of divorced homes is common too. Establishing the means to peacefully and swiftly deal with friction before it arises can make all the difference. Enter: The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah.

Designating a Beis Din

The couple designates a specific agreed-upon Beis Din, avoiding considerable discord surrounding the legal arrangements in the future.

The Solution

Developed by rabbanim, legal professionals, and experienced therapists, the Heskem enables couples to enter marriage with an ideal arrangement in place in the event of future conflict. You can view the full Heskem and its protocols here

Haskomos on the Heskem:

HaGaon HaRav Shlomo Miller, shlita

HaGaon HaRav Moshe Sternbuch, shlita

HaGaon HaRav Hillel David, shlita

HaGaon HaRav Yaakov Forchheimer, shlita

HaGaon HaRav Noach Isaac Oelbaum, shlita

HaGaon HaRav Asher Hatchuel, shlita

THE HESKEM

Download a
Sample Heskem

If conflict ever arises, it is vital to have a preset agreement in place. The Heskem Chosson v’Kallah is a gender-neutral, mutually beneficial contract that can help avoid heartache and save families.

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